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68 Seconds of Pure Thought and Worry – A Negative Use of the Law of Attraction

68 seconds of Pure thought and then Worry has got to be one of the most insidious forms of un conscious sabotage. Abraham Hicks talks about 68 seconds of pure focused thought as a way to achieve what you desire. Worry does the same thing but in a very negative and destructive way. Not that you desire what you focus on when you worry, but that you are unconsciously creating it.

Can 68 Seconds of Pure Thought Create Extraordinary Fitness Results?

Have you ever fallen off the wagon? You’ve made a commitment and absolutely did great for awhile and then all of a sudden it was gone! The motivation stopped and you did not continue with it.

Last year I was going to the gym and I was consistent, consistent, consistent. Every day the first thing I did was get up in the morning, put on my shoes, my gym outfit and off I would go. And I remember thinking, “This is so good. I will never be that way again!”

because I was starting to get really good results and then all of a sudden I stopped; a day here, a day there and all of a sudden it stretched out. I made excuses, you know, it’s too cold, too dark, it’s this, it’s that.

Today I was thinking about why that happened and I believe what it was, was that I lost the vision. Because when I went to the gym, I wasn’t going there to lift weights and run on the treadmill. That part didn’t excite me. What really excited me was the thought, and it sounds really silly, it was the thought of walking along a Mediterranean beach in a really smoking bikini and I was getting amazing results. When I lost touch with the dream, I lost touch with the motivation to continue.

There are a number of different things in my life that I am working on right now. Part of it is the 68 seconds of pure thought that Abraham Hicks talks about. The Law of Attraction says that if you think of something often enough and you generate pure focused thought with the emotion that you feel when you feel really good about something, that will carry you forward and also help to attract those things into your life. So I decided, I am going to give this a shot again, partly because of my trip to the Camino de Santiago next year. I want to be in really good shape just from a fitness and health perspective.

I am going to focus and get back at the gym on a very, very consistent basis because it has been a little haphazard in the last week or so. So join me on my blog. I’d love to have you follow along with my progress. Look forward to talking to you soon.

68 Seconds of Pure Thought Plus Emotion Equals Incredible Results

Abraham Hicks talks about 68 seconds of pure thought and how that can create huge changes in your life. I never really understood exactly what that meant until I stopped going to the gym. That sounds very strange. But, what happened last year was that I was going to the gym every single day and I was getting great results, but it wasn’t because I was there to lift weights or to run on the treadmill. It was because of the thoughts that I was having while I was doing it.

68 seconds of pure thoughtWhat was going though my mind the whole time I was working out was my vacation to France last summer where I was on this beautiful Mediterranean beach. So every time I lifted a weight I could see myself on the beach, and I could feel the sun on my body and I could see the water and I could hear the sounds of the people enjoying themselves. I would get so caught up in the vision of where I was going and how good it felt with the sun, and the water, and the sand, and the people and it was just amazing so that the whole time that I was at the gym was not about working out, it was about visualizing the event. For four months I could hardly wait to get out of bed in the morning just to get over to the gym because I enjoyed what I was doing so much because of the visualizations.

Then something happened that caused me to take a break, and I stopped going. The result of taking the break, was that I stopped feeling and seeing and thinking and enjoying that visualization and the motivation to get out of bed early every morning stopped. I started to make excuses. It’s too dark now that winter is here. It’s too cold to get out of my nice wrm bed. I don’t feel like going to the gym. The excuses were endless.

I can see now, where the 68 seconds is not so much about 68 seconds of just thinking about something. It’s about the combined effect of the emotion and the feelings that you generate from it. Abraham-Hicks says that with 17 seconds of pure thought, another idea will join it or another thought will join it. The two of them together are like an explosion and it’s ten times greater the effect. Every 17 seconds increases the results.

For me the four months of consistency at the gym was so evident in the results that I was getting and how I was feeling that I am totally sold on this concept of visualization and emothin combining for a greater effect. The thing that is interesting about it is that if that is all it takes to get great results, why don’t we spend more time visualizing and enjoying the feeling and the emotion that comes with it? You’ll agree that when you start to worry about something, exactly the same thing happens. You worry about something and another thought joins it and you think “oh my God” and the feeling, the dread, gets bigger and bigger and bigger.

Which would you prefer; to worry and expand those feelings, or to visualize with emotion a positive future? What could this day dream with intense emotion mean for you and your family? What if you could dream those really incredible results into reality? What if you tried it and it worked even a little bit better than what you are getting now? What if it enabled you to feel excitement and in the process increased your creativity and productivity? What results could that allow for in your life? Can imagine getting caught up in building this incredible reality in your mind, if you thought it had the potential of changing the dynamics in your attitude, your actions or your reality? Don’t get me wrong, you can visualize and get great results but just imagine what would happen if you also took massive action. Can you visualize the results that you would get from combining the two? Is it worth a try? It certainly can’t hurt.

Developing Intuition in Business

Have you ever had hind-sight? You knew something was going to happen and you knew what would happen ahead of time? If you’ve ever had hind-sight, you have intuition and that intuition can be developed. By paying attention to the thoughts and feelings that you get in certain circumstances, and by paying attention to your body and how it feels, you will be able to tell whether something is an insight or just a random, passing thought.

After the awareness comes to you that this is different than a random thought, write down your impressions and record the date. When you take the time to do that, you have the ability to go back and look at when a particular feeling, thought or intuition came to you. You will start to see a pattern of being correct which will permit you to trust your intuition. As you begin to trust your intuition, the frequency and information will get stronger for you.

Before I became aware that we are receivers of energy, I just thought I was a bit crazy. I remember a networking event I was at a very long time ago. We had a table set up with products for sale and a woman approached me. The minute she stood in front of me I felt a knot in my stomach. My first impression in the past was just what everyone used to tell me, “You’re too sensitive!” I had been feeling fine previously and because I had just become aware of this same information as I’m giving you today, I looked at her and I said, “You know, I’ve got something I need to take care of right here but if you’d like to browse, just look around and if you have any questions I’d be glad to help you in a few minutes.” All of a sudden I could feel that sense of heaviness or that feeling in my gut go away. She walked to the end of the table, she started looking through things and a couple minutes later she came back to me.

Basically what I was feeling was “the wall” she was putting up because she did not want “to be sold to”.  Everybody loves to buy but most of us hate high pressure sales. When you get into a situation where there are a lot of venders in a room and everyone wants to sell something or to promote their business, it can feel like a very high pressure situation. “Buy this, buy that…” and some of the attendees get very uncomfortable and tense. By being aware of which people those are, you’re more likely to be able to develop a conversation with them that may lead to a relationship and possibly an eventual sale. If you don’t pay attention, chances are, they will be one of those people who will look at your table from about 2 or 3 feet away and immediately head to the other side of the aisle. You’ve seen them if you’ve done any trade fairs; the people who won’t look at you and just move quickly past your table.

In summary ~ Intuition is a great ability to have and it definitely can be developed. Pay attention to; fleeting thoughts, how your body feels before an event or a meeting and what your emotions are like and then notice any changes in how you are feeling when you are approached by different people. Make notes of it, date it, and then go back and look at it later. Over time you will notice a pattern. You will see that you actually are picking up on valuable information. I did not believe for one minute that I had an intuitive bone in my body until I started keeping a journal. By becoming aware, the ability to be able to perceive things a little more quickly can be very beneficial. Take the opportunity to pay a little more attention to your thoughts, emotions, how your body feels and reacts and see if it doesn’t alert you to some interesting insights in your day to day business life.

Often when someone says something about you or anyone else, it reflects more on them than it does on you! Whether the feedback is positive or negative, you get an insight into the person who is saying it or writing it.!/powerofmastery

Every day we have the opportunity to choose happiness. I spent a month in France and realized that I was not LIVING.. I was just living! I was not enjoying my life. I realized there is a huge difference.!/powerofmastery

Camino de Santiago ~ My decision to take this trip was initiated by the death of my ex-husband. As he neared the end of his life I realized that he was was regretting all the things he would miss doing and seeing. How many of us play it safe… and never really step out of our comfort zone because we risk looking foolish or maybe not being able to achieve it?

I am not the least bit athletic and it has been a joke among my kids for many years. The Camino Frances from St Jean Pied de Port in France finishes in Santiago de Compostela, Spain and is about 780 km or approximately 500 miles … some what of a daunting task for someone nearing 60. Preparing for this journey will take some time. My planned date for the beginning of my trek will be around September 2013. Earlier if I can whip myself into shape faster!

(This is written my my daughter Kristel Nastassia after the passing of her father, this past weekend. )

Sunday May 20th 2012, 1:07pm. Today is the first rainy day after what seems to be weeks of sun. Appropriately so. It’s not raining today because today is a sad day, I see it more as a cleansing. Rain is an essential part of life, although I would be lying if I said that I haven’t been sadness today.



Since Tuesday night I have been surrounded with the most incredible people… family and loved ones.

Tuesday night, I called to check in on Dad I was sent into a mode of urgency.

It had been two and a half years since Dad was diagnosed with cancer. When he was diagnosed, he was given a year to live but he had goals; my sisters wedding last summer, and soon after the expected birth of his grandson, Matias <3 , last month.

Dad’s strength and determination, which we often used to refer to as stubbornness is such that anyone should be incredibly proud of.

When Dad picked up the phone his words rung in my ear “I’m going Kristel, this is it.”

We immediately rushed over to his house only to find him sitting at the kitchen table eating a late dinner. Thinking I had somewhat overreacted, I felt silly. He looked fine to me.  We sat and visited with him while my Mother and brother arrived shortly after.

That night he mentioned the desire to be admitted to hospice. I didn’t think he was at that point, we decided to play it by ear.

I decided to stay the night at his side. I woke throughout the night as he made his regular trips to the bathroom. It was exhausting. I woke the next morning and I could hardly believe what he had to endure. I had only experienced one night of what he had been enduring for months. My strong and healthy body was exhausted, I could only imagine the toll it was taking on his weak body, barely 100lbs and heavily medicated.

His strength and courage amazed me. In that moment, I developed a deep respect and appreciation for what he had worked so hard to overcome.

Wednesday morning I heard a horribly loud noise above me, he had fallen. I was terrified, it was obvious that things were shifting.

He was admitted to hospice that day. The ambulance came to pick him up, but not before he chose to walk down a full flight of stairs by himself. Right until the last minute he exhibited incredible strength & courage.

Wednesday, Thursday & Friday are somewhat of a blur. What does stand out to me are the actions of the people who were there to shower him with love right up until his very last breath.

Saturday was an incredible day for all of us.

The nurse told us that Dad’s eyes were dilated and that he could go at anytime. Immediately family began showing up and we spent the day circled around him. We held his hands, gently stroked his skin, showering him with words of love, swabbing his mouth and hydrating his eyes. We looked at albums and shared memories, we laughed and we cried. As hard as we cried, we for sure laughed harder.

Of course Dad wasn’t going anywhere Saturday, his hospice room was a Polish Party! It was one final day on earth with loved ones. Dad always loved a good time. He couldn’t speak or physically respond but his facial gestures reacted to the laughter and love in the room.

I was reminded to Remember the little things in life, because they are the big things.

The little things are all around us and we go on missing them every moment. They are gifts. We can become so accustom to their presence in our life that we don’t see them for what they are. A voicemail from a loved one is an incredible gift cause one day we won’t hear their voice any longer.

This experience became an opportunity to observe many things. One being that energy changes form but is always around. I watched Dad as he moved from communicating to a non-responsive state.

Even in his inability to respond, there was peace in just being with him. It made me look deeper into the peace that I was experiencing. If simply being was enough, then why would it change when the life energy that is in dad, leaves the physical body, and moves into it’s present form?

My understanding is that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it always is, always has been and will always continue to be. Although I don’t fully understand at this moment, I know the energy that is him, still is.

An earlier life lesson taught me never cling to something that is no longer. In that clinging, we are in the past and not available to the beauty that exist in the now which is all around us.

The gift of Jerzy Cimoszko as my father, played out it’s perfection in my life, and his impact will continue to do so until I take my last breath.

Today I hugged my kids a little longer, paid a little more attention, said I love you to people I never used to, and I will continue to learn and grow from the experience of the loss of my Dad.

Out of this pain I will expand. In pain we deepen. In that deepening we go more into peace. In peace we bring in room for freedom. In freedom we expand in happiness.

As I left the room one last time, and looked at the body my father had experience this life in, I gave thanks to it for the opportunities it provided him to live and enjoy this life.

Death is not something to be feared. It’s something we don’t understand. Any time we do not understand, our lack of understanding creates fear. I was afraid before and now I am at peace.

Everything we go through in life gives us an endless choice of opportunities. Although some opportunities may seem better than others, the distinction is our mind. We may not want to experience certain experiences, however no one escapes painful situations, it is certain that they are coming. We can embrace what is and look for the beauty, or we can fight it and try to ignore it’s presence in our lives. In embracing we allow the stream to flow, in our fight we attempt to build a wall to stop a natural flow that will only build pressure before finding it’s way out in some form or another.

In an in between state of clarity and confusion my dad asked me a question, he said…

“Did I do it right Kristel?” “You did.” I answered. “Yes, but how do you know?” He responded. I asked him if he trusted me. He said “Of course I trust you.” I asked him “Do you have 5 amazing kids that love you very much?” “Yes.” He said. I asked again “Do you have people all around you that love you?” “Yes.” He said. I asked him one more thing “Are you happy?” “Yes.” As he smiled a huge smile. “Then you did it right.”

After transitioning into his non-responsive state, I reminded him of the conversation we had shared. I reminded him of all the love ones who were present for him in the room at that moment and everyone who and been there. It was obvious the impact he had in the lives of those he loved. He had done it right.

I sit here in awe right now as I now see how miracles were unfolding throughout this past week that have had such a huge impact on me. I read something that reminded how

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience but rather, We are spiritual beings who are having a human experience.

One day a couple months back after being in Emergency due to complications, Dad looked at me and said “Kristel, you are an angel.” I looked back at him and said “I’m not an angel, I am just a daughter loving her father the way a daughter should.” In that moment I wondered how much love dad had allowed in in his lifetime. What I was doing, wasn’t above and beyond, it was simply love.

It gives me such pleasure knowing that my dad left this experience of life feeling deeply loved and cared for by so many people, who stayed at his side hours upon hours, until the very end. They were there not out of obligation but out of a a genuine love.

There is an acceptance and understanding that is accompanied with peace for me. The tears still come and I know they will. I will be with whatever feelings come and allow myself to feel them as they surface.

A friend reminded me of the incredible balance that exists in nature. He told me how the energy of life is never lacking. When one energy leaves, a new one is already there to create the steady flow and balance that Is.

This next week as we prepare to leave Canada for France, I feel so grateful to have been here at my Fathers side. My wish was to be with him as he left his body, and I was. I held his hand, kissed his cheek, said my goodbye, as did my youngest brother and sister. And when it was right for Dad, he was gone.

I am blessed.

Although no one will ever take Dad’s place. I know that this is the way it is meant to be for all of us. We may not understand it now, and yet it’s perfection will reveal itself in the right time.

I want to take a moment to acknowledge the wonderful people in my life. Thank you to my Aunt and Uncle for loving Dad and taking care of him, feeding him, driving him to appointments and all the things I am not even aware of that you did. Thank you to my Mom, my children, my brothers and sisters, my Aunts and Uncles & to family friends, for all the ways you continue to Be Love.

I love you Dad. Thank you for the experience of life with you.

I would do it all over again. xo

Love Always,


I hear from many people who say they live in DoorMatville like I did years ago. They very much want to leave and become an empowered person but struggle trying to do it. I want to reassure you that if I could do it, anyone can, as long as you have patience. It can take time, like making any other changes in your life. First it’s important to identify the biggest factors that keep you there. Like most people, mine was a need to be liked by everyone. People pleasers want to keep people around at all costs. That cost is usually sacrificing their happiness to make others happy.

I believe this comes from a fear that you’ll be lonely if you alienate those around you by putting yourself and your needs first.

When I was in school I had tons of friends. I was a people pleaser back then but so were most of my friends so it was a more level playing field. We were just a bunch of girls trying to find our way and feel secure. But as I got older, my insecurity deepened and my people pleasing escalated at that same rate. I became scared to stand up to people or say no when I wanted to. This is common as evidenced by what I hear from my readers, but it doesn’t make it right for you.

DoorMats often complain that people don’t treat them right or return their kindness but keep on giving anyway.

That’s what I did until I slowly began to stop my over-giving patterns. I didn’t become empowered overnight. It took many years to get to where I am now. As I enjoyed my progress and feeling more in control of my life, I continued making changes. My journey out of DoorMatville had two stages. I’d begun to appreciate me, and what I had to offer, when I was still married. Slowly I began to say no to requests I didn’t want to do. When I was strong enough, I got divorced and went out on my own.

I call myself a recovering DoorMat because many situations can trigger old fear or insecurity and we can turn to old habits of pleasing.

Yes, pleasing becomes a bad habit when it’s done for a good part of your life. I reverted to it many times over the years. And you know what? It’s okay, as long as you can catch yourself and begin to break the habit again. Ingrained habits can be hard to break. Being a DoorMat can seem like a safety zone when you’ve used it for a good part of your life. I still occasionally revert to old habits and become too agreeable with someone I want to like me or in situations that make me nervous. Fortunately, I’ve got good defenses too and pull myself out quickly. But I didn’t at the beginning.

Start by doing one thing differently. Turn down one request. Express what you really think to one person.

On Friday I’ll talk about how going cold turkey on people helped me to learn how to be happy in my own company and cleanse my life of people who used me, kind of like throwing your cigarettes away to break a smoking habit. You don’t have to go as drastic as me but it really helped me break my people pleasing habits. Awareness is key. Write down why you think you try so hard to please others. For me it was mainly fear of loneliness. There were other factors too but they revolved around not wanting to lose people and be alone.

Then ask yourself if making others happy is worth you’re not being happy.

As I became more conscious that I wanted to be happy and people pleasing wasn’t getting me anywhere but more miserable, I paid attention to my response to people and made small changes. I had to take myself off of “Yes” auto-pilot to break the habit. Get into the habit of not responding immediately to requests. Say you’ll let them know or at least give yourself time to think about whether it’s something you want to do. Then take the plunge and say the first “no.” I finally accepted I was already unhappy so what was I risking??

When you pay attention and decide to begin to break your habits of being acquiescent, you say a big, fat, “I love me!” That was the beginning of the beautiful self-love I have now. You can have it too when you accept it’s your choice to be agreeable, and you can choose to change it by breaking the people pleasing habit, one person and one act at a time.

Authored by Daylle Deanna Schwartz ~ Take the self-love challenge and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways for free at

image photo : Third eyeIntuition in business has emerged into the forefront lately. Some of our brightest and most well known people use it! Why… because it works!

Bill Gates – “Often you have to rely on intuition.”

Albert Einstein – “The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you and you don’t know how or why.”

Robert Graves – “Intuition is the supra-logic that cuts out all the routine processes of thought and leaps straight from the problem to the answer.” Ingrid Bergman – “You must train your intuition – you must trust the small voice inside you which tells you exactly what to say, what to decide”

Albert Einstein – “The only real valuable thing is intuition.”

Intuition in business works miracles in any people related business due to fact that in most business situations there are hidden agendas. Trying to flush out that critical objection can be hazardous at best and if it stays hidden can scuttle a deal. Intuition in business is the edge you need over competitors. Once you have identified the type of prospective customer you are dealing with, you can then rely on your intuition to determine the information that they need to know which will in turn identify the benefits that will be most useful in completing the sale. Using your intuition will enhance your communication skill set and bring forth positive results. Sensing the best price to sell at or the reason behind a client’s hesitance will win you not only more clients but also a more successful career.

Michael Munn, Ph.D. used his intuition in business and is upfront about letting people know that he did. Munn is an award-winning engineer who has managed multi million dollar covert projects. As a former aerospace chief scientist for Lockheed, he and his teams worked on challenging technical problems. Because they worked on the cutting edge of science there was no one to follow. They had a program aimed at stopping Russian nuclear bombs in space. Munn credited their success to brief meditation sessions during the day. This allowed them to take the time to listen to their inner knowing and the resulting intuitions. Munn said, “How do I know the answers are there? I see pictures or movies or dreamlike sequences. I have an immediate inner knowing that this is the answer for which I was waiting. My intuition lets me know, ‘This is it!”’

Albert Einstein – “The intellect has little to do on the road to discovery. There comes a leap in consciousness, call it intuition or what you will, and the solution comes to you. You don’t know how or why.”

Intuition Defined

Intuition is typically information that arrives in a sudden flash, an “aha” or a clear sense of knowing without effort. The sense of intuition is often a superior cognitive sense that uses insights resulting from various areas. The sense of knowing is so complete that I am often in awe of the process. The rapid time frame in which it happens brings with it a sense of certainty regarding the favorable or unfavorable outcome in the future.

How to Cultivate Intuition in Business

Meditation …take the time to still your mind for short periods during the day. Transcendental mediation recommends spending 20 minutes in the morning and twenty minutes mid-afternoon to meditate. The more regularly that you practice, the greater the results you will see. Not only will your stress level be reduced, your blood pressure lowered, but your intuition in business will develop over time.

Keep a journal of insights that you have. Date the entries so you can look back and see if you were correct before the fact. I used to think I did not have an intuitive bone in my body until I started tracking my hunches. Written in black and white, it will be hard to deny the truth once you have enough instances logged. Anyone who has had “hindsight”, has intuition that they have been ignoring.

Pay attention to your body. Be aware of the way it feels on a good day. Notice where you hold tension and when. If you are attuned to the “feel” of your body day to day you will be more aware when intuition hits you in the “gut”. The solar plexus is generally where most people sense the physical forms of intuition. Because intuition in business or elsewhere is often very subtle, you must learn live in the present and in your body. It can be an exquisite tool for providing insights that will benefit you in all areas of your life.

Ask for feedback. If you sense something, ask a question that will allow you to determine if you have correctly intuited the situation. If it is a sensitive situation you may have to be careful in the way you word it however the feedback you receive is invaluable for your confidence in trusting your intution.

Listen to the still small voice within. The majority of people often have so much going on that taking the time to really listen gets lost in the clutter of day to day life. If the communication is too soft ask that the volume be increased. I have no idea how it works, I just know it does.

Get in the habit of playing small intuitive games with yourself to help build your skill level. Practice visualizing what your co-worker will be wearing when you get to the office. This is easily verifiable and will build your confidence. Intuit who is on the other end of the phone when it rings. Intuition in business is like any muscle, it can be exercised to strengthen it.

Most of all… have fun with it. Intuition is one of those things that will not not work if you try too hard. Be playful and relax and you will see results!

When you call a reader are you really willing to hear what is said? Or are you so invested in your personal situation that the response cannot be heard?

The Law of Attraction ~ How Do You Feel Love When You Have Been Betrayed?

The Law of Attraction ~ How Do You Feel Love When You Have Been Betrayed?

How do you feel love when you have been betrayed? It’s easy to love someone when they are good to you. However when you have interactions with someone who irritates you and you “feel” that irritation every time you see them, guess what you are attracting… more irritation! You always have a choice in how to respond. Analyze what it is that annoys you and decide what would be the best way to act or respond before you speak. Learn to “act” rather than “react”.

Kind loving responses will draw more of the same to you as will angry outbursts however behaving lovingly to someone who has hurt or angered you, probably creates the one of the greatest challenges for most people. How can you reach a state of mind that allows you to respond in love? Abraham says it is as simple as reaching for a better emotion. Find something about that person to appreciate. Obviously you don’t like the energy or attitude emanating from this person however you may be able to appreciate the “passion” with which they deliver their message. Look for something no matter how small… it may be the way they dress, their punctuality, their persistence or their memory (and their ability to recall everything you have ever said or done).

Once you have found something you can sincerely appreciate without judging them at the same time, focus all your attention on that and watch your attitude shift. Remember the only person you can change is yourself. The “blame game” never works and breaking through an impasse often takes some creative thinking.

More often than not what angers or irritates us is a trigger to some event that hurt us in the past. An elderly friend of mine, a very gentle, kind woman, walked thru the church basement one day and came across some people in an AA meeting. She told me she instantly felt angry. She went upstairs and saw the pastor standing there. Instantly she blurted out, before she had time to think, “They should all be dead!” referring to the AA members. Embarrassed and ashamed, she apologized and said that she had no idea where that came from. When we discussed the situation later she talked about her step father, a man her mother was forced into marrying. He had been an alcoholic and tried to molest her and her sisters when they were very young. Although she had not thought of that man since she left home at 14, more than 66 years prior, the reaction she had was as fresh as the day when she caught him going after her sister.

Ask the right questions and you will get the right answers. The quality of your interactions depends on the quality of your words which depends on the quality of your thoughts. Reach for positive feelings about your adversary. Though their feeling towards you may not change, your ability to act in a positive loving way towards them will make your life more joyful and your relationships far more satisfying.